Three Pillars of Growing your Career
Updated: Jan 12, 2021
December is my fav month and I love the cold, the feeling of everything's gonna be okay and the promise of starting new.
So, today I thought to sit down and think about how to advance yourself as a person in your career and life generally. There could be multiple things that have worked for you over the years but these are my top ones after deliberation. Let me know in the comment section if you agree.
MINDSET- Ask anyone who has made a change or advanced themselves or broken out of a mould that mindset counts. Much of that understanding stems from the work of Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, synthesized in her remarkably insightful Mindset: The New Psychology of Success One of the most basic beliefs we carry about ourselves, Dweck found in her research, has to do with how we view and inhabit what we consider to be our personality.
A “fixed mindset” assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are static givens which we can’t change in any meaningful way. A “growth mindset,” on the other hand, thrives on challenge and sees failure not as evidence of unintelligence but as a heartening springboard for growth and for stretching our existing abilities.
So before we even go here, I wanted to tell you quickly about Goldilocks rule....because we are talking about the change in mindset and readapting our ways of thinking or focus- this one is life changing. I have talked about this before, you should know that when we take up a challenge or end up getting something done, its because your are within the parameters of this rule. The human brain loves a challenge, but only if it is within an optimal zone of difficulty. James Clear explains this rule as "The Goldilocks Rule states that humans experience peak motivation when working on tasks that are right on the edge of their current abilities. Not too hard. Not too easy. Just right." Thats why I think that the theory of marginal gains or improving my 1 percent everyday works so well because the task is not set to fail you, you don't have to go from 0 to 100. You just take one step at a time.
GRIT- Grit is passion and perseverance for long-term and meaningful goals. Angela Duckworth, a researcher at the University of Pennsylvania, suggests that grit is a strong predictor of success and ability to reach one's goals. When I was young, I wish I knew this. I always thought the smartest of people had all the luck because you know they were smart. At some point way later I realised that if you wanted something badly enough and worked for it, you can get it. I so beleive in this myself and I know its true. So, no matter who tells you in life and in whatever stage that you can't get it done, know that you can.
MENTOR- I havent seen lot many people talk about this, so I wanted to bring this in. Having a mentor is that extra confidence or push that you need in your career. Its not so difficult to find one actually. I remember long ago when I decided I needed one- someone to help me steer in the right direction, who had more experience than me and of course someone I wanted to be- I put it out in twitter. I had 3 big names contacting me and very kindly agreeing to it. So I spoke to them all and decided on two. and on some point i found my mentor. He was kind, listened well and gave me really good advise. He wasnt pushing and since we were in two different cities, we would meet on a telephonic conversation i think was twice a month. Later it was occasional but what it gave me was this confidence that he thought I was in the right path. I also think to continue having the focus a mentor is a tremendous help. you not only have the guidance but you learn from them without having to repeat their mistakes. I think i was so impacted by this that I felt everyone should have the access to a mentor. And I know how difficult it can be for introverts to reach out to others, or cold call someone and ask- would you mentor me? So, the platform SIPM Connect was born out it. A platform for project managers where newbies and experts can meet and be mentored globally. You choose your group (newbie/expert), location and mentorship domain and then look for a mentor either locally or globally. Best part- you already have mentor who are signed up which means they are ready to give back by mentoring someone. This site has no gimmicks, no sales pitch, just word of mouth. What do you think? do you think by having these 3 pillars with you- you can create the change? Though I am talking here more on the career front, you know this can be in your personal life or starting a business. Anythings possible. You just have to believe n it.
If you have the same mindset as me, dont forget to join this journey by signing up here or you can also see the video in Youtube. I will see you soon hopefully next week :) till then take care, stay safe and lots of hugs.